A Personal Checklist For Cultivating Trust Within Yourself
1. Honor yourself where you are without judgement.
*No, what if's* Just notice what is.
2. Practice respecting yourself
*If an environment is bothersome, politely excuse yourself until you are ready.
*If a conversation is bothersome, politely excuse yourself without escalating.
*If you need some time alone, communicate it without blaming.
3. Eliminate talking negatively about yourself............even in "jest".
*Humor sometimes holds the negative truths about our thinking we are afraid to state bluntly*
4. Practice honoring your body.
*If it hurts, don't blame it. Let it rest.
*If it's tired, don't push it. Let it sleep.
* If it's lazy, don't be angry at it. Pick it up.
*If it's sad, don't fight it. Let it release.
*If it's angry, don't give it an opponent. Let it examine its battles.
(Sometimes things are unjust or unfair. We have every right to explore that within ourselves. It's part of what makes us human....but that is often not what anyone tells you when you have PTSD).
The "want" for others to be trustworthy, respectful, and understanding is strong in those with PTSD, although often unspoken. I have learned that in order for it to occur outside of ourselves, it must first occur within ourselves and these are just a few of the tools I've learned to cultivate.