Farmers and gardeners know the fine art of preparing the land, planting the seeds, tending the plants, and harvesting the bounty. I believe the same process applies to our lives. We often want things to change, yet are terrified of making the changes because change by itself can be uncomfortable. As human beings we love our comfort zone, even if we know what we are doing either isn't working or isn't good for us. We must remember that if we want to come out from under stress, we must prepare the land within us. In order to plant new seeds, we have to prepare ourselves to take a step that may be new, a little uncomfortable, and possibly a little frightening. When I say something is frightening in this aspect, I really mean unfamiliar.
We can sometimes be afraid of the unfamiliar. Let's use meditation for example. If you walked into a room of your closest buddies and asked them what they thought meditation was, how would they react? I can think of a few funny and rather witty responses. Most people have a bit of a preconceived notion about it, until they chat with me about the brain science behind it and well, then the conversation changes. We are usually judgmental about something when it is not in our scope of knowledge, once that scope changes, we begin to change too.
We have to look at what it is we want to harvest in our lives before we can decide which seeds to plant. If we want to harvest more heartache, isolation, suffering, and sadness, we are pretty good at that. This is a paved pathway in the brain that has legitimacy, however, just because that pathway has been paved, doesn't mean a new one can't be made. By no means is there a quick fix for paving a new neural pathway. Have you seen what it takes to make a road? If you sit in that traffic, you know what it's like. Imagine pulling out the heavy equipment and putting parking cones around yourself while you are paving a new pathway. You would have to re-route family, friends, and others around you while you paved.....and sometimes that is what happens. The harvest you wish to reap has to start within you. It doesn't come from the opinions of others or the approval of a community. It comes from deciding you are not here to suffer. For me, it was a battle coming to that realization, but at some point I realized that suffering could not possibly be the plan for my life and fought my way to answers. So if you need to educate yourself on aspects of what you are going through that others around you may not understand, know that it is your path. This is going to be your harvest and you get to decide what seeds you plant for it. Health, well-being, happiness, love, energy,inspiration, strength, and connectedness are a far better harvest than sadness, defeat, self-loathing, anger, and shame.
As I've said in other posts, I don't believe it is ever going to be one thing that helps a person heal. I believe it is always multiple tools used in a myriad of different ways. Medical doctors, medicine, acupuncture, yoga, nature walks, exercise, gyms, reading, education, meditation, energy work, reflexology, holistic medicine....the list goes on and on. Find the combination that works for you. There are so many resources online that even if you don't have a practitioner accessible in your town or if it is not affordable for you.....hop online and start searching. It took me a long time to arrive where I am and how I am, the internet was a great tool to get me started in learning more about what I was dealing with. Some information you may agree with, some you may not. That's not entirely the point though, the point is for you to begin recognizing that there are so many possibilities and the right one will begin to resonate with you and light up the brain with doorways you hadn't yet discovered.
PTSD and stress do not have to stop you where you are. There's far more ahead of you to explore and learn. Life isn't lived just one way. Find your way and let it evolve.