Staying the course through Memorial Day with those still living is equally as important as honoring the Fallen. The veterans who have lost a brother or sister in arms are suffering deeply on a day like today. Some I know cannot even step outside their homes, attend an event, or even turn on the television. The reminder of their fellow service member not being here with them is a deep wound that isn't easily managed. Be gentle with them, even if they come across gruff or unappreciative of your presence. They need you now most of all and they need to know that people care about their well-being. Allow them to honor the day in their own quietness, knowing that there is no shame in not attending an event that deepens their wounds. Just check in with them now and throughout the day to let them know they are not alone, even if they feel like they are. But please, no pressure. Do not pressure them to "party" and celebrate, like the civilian world in their kick-off to summer weekend. They need to be given room to feel, to heal, to reflect.